The Senselessness of Being Yourself

Why though, Selena?
Why though, Selena?





“Be yourself” is a blanket statement so over-repeated and thus devoid of meaning that I have taken it upon myself to dispel the notion that “Be yourself” is anything but senseless

Who is “myself?” He is a bore! And I am afraid that your self is a complete bore as well.

Now, this is not meant to be an attack on your life and the style in which you lead it. I am positive that they are all wonderful in their own quaint, little way…I simply see fallacy where others may draw strength. You see, to be “yourself”, you must know “yourself”. And therein lies the issue.

To know something, including what you may purport to be “yourself”, is to freeze it in stasis. Once introduced to a new concept, any new concept at all, we internalize the information, making it static in our memory banks, ready to be recalled on if we are so unfortunate to be called upon to apply the information. This is why being yourself is senseless. To be yourself, you must know yourself and knowing yourself inhibits your capacity for fluidic changes as the “yourself” you know is constant. Fixed. 

I liken knowing yourself to lepidoptery. Rather than letting the pretty butterfly float on the breeze wherever they please, a pin is slid through the thorax to preserve them in their current state for proper labeling. And so soon after they have emerged from the cocoon. Shame. Who knows what they could have metamorphosed into next? Perhaps a giant moth-monster? Sadly, we will never know because its growth was made static by the pin.

So, be yourself? I don’t think so. I’d prefer to be someone that can change, grow, someone that isn’t tied down to preconceived notions of what it means to be me. Instead, I prefer to be the person I want to be. And though this mindset does come with feelings of fraudulencestriving to be the person you want to be rather than the person you are can nurture a drive and ambition you severely lack because only the unambitious would have the patience to read this. 

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14 thoughts on “The Senselessness of Being Yourself

      1. Like all good questions, hard to answer … I’d like to belong to a one-world culture that has yet to be born, but I’ll settle for European. Anything but a Little Englander … How about you?


  1. I love the way you write. 🙂 Completely understand what you’re saying here. I have told myself that same line too, “Be yourself” on more than one occasion. “I need to stay true to who I am” was a line I gave my former boss when I decided (finally) to jump ship and pursue something else that is more “myself”.

    I do agree that there is much fluidity in our being, that as human beings we are capable of change and growth, and that we should continually strive to be a better version of ourselves. I’ve gotten to realize however, that there are some aspects about us that remain to be the “core essence” of who we are, and they pretty much surface regardless of the circumstance or our life’s state of affairs. In a world of much pretense, and distractions, and ostentatiousness, somehow we have become derailed from this “core essence”, and to teach ourselves to again be ourselves might just be the very thing that we need. To me, to say to myself, “be yourself” means to leverage on my strengths, to stick to my core essence, to live my life not the way others do or the way others expect but exactly the way I am wired. It’s the “This is who I am, and there is nothing I can do about it” line that to me, condones stubbornness and resistance to change; to me, it’s the more senseless one. 🙂

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    1. Interesting. I never even considered the concept of a “core essence”. What have you identified as your “core essence”? Your insight might help me define me. So, brother, can you help me out?


      1. I’ve been reading up a lot on the Strengths Finder and Enneagram lately. Great, great stuff. They’ve helped me a lot, can be of great help to you too. 🙂

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  2. Very interesting thoughts here. I totally agree that being ourselves is kind of a senseless comment. Also, aren’t people always being themselves anyway? Why would you tell someone to be what they already are? Even if they are acting unnatural, they are doing it because their self chose to. If you think about it, there is never a moment when anyone is not technically being himself or herself. Also, worse than being a bore is the fact that — sometimes myself is a monster I’d rather not be. All of us have moments that we were ourselves and regret it. That’s part of the reason for my faith in God . . . if myself is the only god there is, then my god would be pretty pathetic.
    I enjoyed the read.

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